Life comes with a range of possibilities and experiences. Some should be fun while other should be deep and fulfilling and speak to your convictions. Do you! Celebrate life anew!
- Buy a piece of keepsake jewelry. Don’t necessarily aim for expense; choose what speaks to you, cheap or not.
—- - Go somewhere with your friends celebrate and get away from your friends to celebrate (Yes, this means you’ll go somewhere twice in the year of 40).
—- - Identify your rituals (or create some). Believe it or not, I wear perfume everyday (the same fragrance) although I know it’s going to disappear very soon. I just love the smell, and it makes me feel like a woman.
—- - Study what you’re like when you’re angry and decide if you’re proud of your angry self. Do better, if necessary.
—- - Define your sense of style and curate your look. I want to always be able to count on you to look and feel good. You can’t beat me in a wrap dress :).
—- - Decide to excel at something or at least put excellent, consistent effort into it.
—- - Figure out what makes you feel good and make time to do it. I didn’t mean sex, but, yes to that, too.
—- - Figure out whose company you love and spend time with that person or people as often as possible.
—- - Do something you’ve always wanted to do, but keep putting off. Get that thing done. There’s no joy like doing something that you’ve always wanted to do. To see yourself in the vision of your imagine is quite mesmerizing.
—- - Try something that you’ve never done (and it can’t overlap with items 1 – 9).
This is crap that you should just give up. I mean, since you are a woman of a certain age, embrace the decided luxury of it by deciding. Choose how you will live.
- Stop lying to yourself about who you are. Just accept that you do some things that you never thought you’d do so often.
—- - Stop being bottled up. Express yourself! Just pick and choose where…I mean, there are some places where you shouldn’t keep it 100…LOL! Seriously, everybody doesn’t deserve the privilege of knowing the full you. You can be selective about when and who you are transparent with while always being authentic.
—- - Stop feeling guilty about the gaps between your choices and the requirements of religious practice if you aren’t going to change. Guilt is pointless. It only makes you feel bad. Regret is better. Regret makes you choose not to do it again.
—- - Stop living small. Go after what you want. This also means you stop buying into that, “You can have it all” crap. Focus on what’s most important to you. If you aim to do it all, something won’t get enough of you. Go after your gold, not all the gold.
—- - Stop being hurt by the same series of events or people. Look at your choices and be honest with yourself about how and why you are hurting.
—- - If you are single, STOP lying about your dating criteria. Just own your preferences which means there are some people who are necessarily off the table. It doesn’t mean you’ll be single forever. It simply means you won’t spend the next six-week staying on the phone with somebody until 3am when you know it isn’t going to work.
—- - If you’re married, STOP complaining about your spouse. Either take divorce off the table and commit or get out already.
—- - Stop committing to jobs, people, places, clubs, organizations, and activities that you don’t really enjoy or benefit from.
—- - Stop being afraid. Instead, study your fears and silence them by walking toward them. You’re only afraid of the things that you think are bigger than you….or the things that you didn’t do you part to master.
—- - Stop getting excited about free tee shirts – Sorry, this one is personal. I just hate branding clothing. If I’m not a paid model or don’t work for you, I don’t want to wear your name across my chest. Seriously, stop whatever you’re doing to get free Discover card tees…those things are only suitable for the gym.
Maybe this is just being fully grown. You know, mature, an adult.
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